A Yoga Walk

There’s something very special about the Texas Hill Country in the spring time.  It has a lot to do with the bluebonnets and all the other wildflowers that splash our lawns and roadsides with bright colors.  There is an unspoken agreement between neighbors and residents of the Hill Country to mow around the flowers, preserving nature’s exclamations of beauty and life as long as we can.  With the butterflies dancing about the flowers, the birds singing in symphony in the trees, and the sweet smells of honeysuckle lingering on soft breezes, it is the absolute perfect time to venture outside for some yogic walking!

You might be wondering what that means.  What makes yogic walking any different from regular old walking?  The answer is not much.  It’s really a matter of focus, intention, adding in some stretches at the end of your walk, and of course, offering yourself the wonderful gift of savasana to close your practice.  Yogic walking is an excellent way to bring your practice out of the classroom and into your home environment.  It offers an aerobic element and can help bring awareness around tendencies in your everyday postural alignment you might not have noticed before.

To get started with a yogic walking practice, choose a pleasant route (in your neighborhood, at a nearby park, etc.) that will take about 20-30 minutes to complete (1/2 to 3/4 mile, depending on your pace).   If you want, begin with a 5-10 minute centering.  You can center yourself in whatever way feels right for you.  You might sit for a few moments, just noticing your breath, your physical body, and then your thoughts and emotions.  The intention here is to acknowledge what is happening internally for you and to invite your awareness into your present moment experience.

Begin walking with a slow pace, paying attention to the sensation of your feet meeting the ground with each step.  Notice if you are walking solidly, with all parts of your feet (except your arch) contacting the ground.  If not, are you tending toward walking on the outer edges of your feet or the inner edges?  Notice if this way of walking feels supportive for you.  Is there discomfort in any parts of your body, like your knees, hips, or thighs?  Make any adjustments in your gait that feel supportive for you.

Having checked in with your feet, find your perfect walking stride.  You want to keep a brisk pace that will raise your heartbeat, but not so fast that your posture suffers.  Often times, when we try to walk too fast, our body compensates by leaning forward.  This can strain the back and neck.  Your perfect stride should allow you to keep your shoulders aligned over your hips.  Just as in Mountain Pose, stabilize your core by drawing your abdominals toward your spine and encourage a long spine by lengthening up through your crown.  As you find the pace that best supports your ability to maintain this postural alignment, notice how it feels.  Is it different from the way you normally walk?  What is different about it?

Having checked in with your postural alignment, notice your breath.  Breathing in and out through your nose, establish a rhythm that supports your level of aerobic activity.  Meditate on your breath, witnessing its sensations as you inhale and exhale.  Notice how focusing on your breath helps to keep your awareness anchored in your present experience.  Are there any scents in the air?  Honeysuckle, fresh-cut grass, burning wood, laundry, food cooking?  What sounds do you hear?  Birds chirping, dogs barking, treetops rustling, kids laughing?  What about sensations in your body?  Breezes kissing your skin, sweat trickling from your hairline, sun raising the hairs along your arms?  Or perhaps there is a discomfort in part of your body.  Perhaps an adjustment in your pace, gait, or posture would be helpful.

Just like when you are practicing yoga on your mat, yogic walking is all about diving into your present experience.  Often times, when we go for a walk, our minds race with thoughts.  All sorts of worries, plans, lists, imaginings, etc. preoccupy our minds, so that we arrive at the end of our walk feeling just as stressed and/or distracted as we were at the start.  Yogic walking invites our minds to relax and simply enjoy, moment to moment, all the little beauties inherent to nature.

At the close of your walk, find a quiet space where you can cool down and stretch.  If you want, light a candle or an incense.  Sit down in easy pose and take a couple of falling out breaths.  Continuing to breathe with a steady, even pace in and out through your nose, bring your right ear to your right shoulder, with your left hand on the floor to stretch your left shoulder.  Hold a few breaths and then switch sides.  From here, you want to stretch all your major muscles (hamstrings, quadriceps, hip flexors, calves,  back and abdominals.)  If you want, you can complete the flow of postures suggested below, holding each for 5 breaths.

  • Forward Bend (flexing your feet to stretch the calves)
  • Cat/Cow
  • Pigeon (each leg)
  • Plank
  • Cobra
  • Extended Child
  • Cow Face (or Triceps Stretch)
  • Boat
  • Knees to Chest (lying down)
  • Bridge
  • Happy Baby
  • Knee Down Twist

No matter which stretches you choose, be sure to give yourself the gift of savasana at the end of your practice.  As you lie in savasana, scan through each of your body parts, relaxing each muscle as your body settles into the support of the ground beneath you.  You can stay here as long as you like, but try to be with stillness for at least 3-5 minutes.

I wish you joy, peace, and balance as you embark on your yogic walk!  Namaste.

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New Study Shows Meditation Strengthens the Brain!

Check out this article from the UCLA Newsroom, reporting on new findings that regular meditation practice strengthens the brain.

http://newsroom.ucla.edu/portal/ucla/evidence-builds-that-meditation-230237.aspx

If this inspires you to start your own meditation practice, try this simple technique.  Find a quiet place to sit in a comfortable position, on a small cushion or folded blanket if you like,  upright with relaxed shoulders.  Close your eyes or gaze softly downward.  Begin to notice the subtle sensation of your breath passing in and out through the tip of your nose, and keep your awareness focused there.  You will notice your mind wandering, jumping from thought to thought.  That’s okay.  It’s normal.  Each time you notice your mind wandering from your breath, simply label it as thought.  You can say inwardly to yourself, “thought”, and then return your focus to your breath.  This will happen again and again.  Our minds are used to being very active, so settling down into a single-pointed focus on our breath takes time and practice.  Just keep noticing when your mind has strayed, label it as thought, and return to your breath.  Do this for 20 minutes.

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The Little Lessons

The Little Lessons…

Recently several of my students, at separate times, presented me with an article about the dangers of yoga. The article discussed the very real fact that yoga can lead to injuries, especially when practiced with a fervor that does not honor the body’s signals and limitations. One very wise student (Ginny), pointed out the article’s reference to the struggle many modern yoga practitioners face, sometimes unwittingly, with “ego and obsession”. There is always someone in class, in a magazine, or on the internet who can do a more challenging pose, or can do a pose with greater precision or depth. It is a very real part of our nature to try to be the best, to push ourselves beyond our limits in the pursuit of some idealized goal.

My initial response to this article was to receive it with gratitude. It had opened up a discussion, not only in my classes, but in the broader public discourse, about something that needed to be brought to light. As yoga has grown in popularity, there has been a lot of talk about its myriad benefits. And they are many! But the truth is yoga can lead to injury when practiced carelessly. We are putting our body in some funky positions, doing things our body may not be used to. And more importantly, we all have different bodies, different limitations, different edges. Discussing this article opened the door to discussing the importance of honoring our bodies where they are at and establishing a comfort with developing a practice that supports us rather than harms us.

As I sat with awareness around the whole topic, a deeper level of understanding also blossomed. I began to think about what inspires my own personal yoga practice. For me, the physical postures have always been a means to an end, not an end in and of themselves. My practice has been informed by the 8-limbs of yoga, only one of which is asana (physical posture). I have found that practicing asanas has not only prepared my body for prolonged periods of meditation, as was its original intention, but it has served to detoxify my body of stored-up stress and tension. It has connected me deeply to my body and all its wisdom, informing me of places in my body that are holding tension, emotional build-up, and memories of past traumatic experiences. It has provided me with a way to let go of those toxins and return to a feeling of comfort, balance, and peace within my physical experience.

My personal practice of yoga has always been driven by my intention to cultivate contentment, resilience, concentration, and perhaps most importantly, the capacity to be truly engaged with my present experience. To me, this is one of the greatest jewels a yoga practice can offer. I have practiced with the intention of learning to, in the words of Deepak Chopra, In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside [me]. The discussion inspired by my students presenting this article to me reminded me to share this other aspect of my yoga practice with my students. I realized I had over the years of teaching drifted from an emphasis in my classes on pranayama (breath awareness & control), pratyahara (sensory withdrawal), dharana (concentration), and dhyana (meditation and observation of the mind) to mostly focusing on alignment and deepening of the asana practice.
As many of my students already know, we began focusing with more intention on this aspect of our practice. That is not the focus of this article, however. What I would instead like to reflect on here is the incredible gift my students gave to me, probably without knowing it, by simply bringing this article to my attention. This served as an inspiration to me to re-examine myself as a teacher and reminded me to bring the fruits of my personal practice into the classroom. The truth is, each and every class I receive the gift of my students’ unique presence and inspiration in so many unspoken ways. And thinking of all this reminds me of how life has a way of offering us lessons in the least expected ways. We are all each other’s teachers.

Sometimes life unfolds in the most agreeable, easily-recognized-as-beautiful way. Other times, life offers us challenges, opportunities to see ourselves and the world around us in new, refreshing, and enlightening ways. The key is to be receptive to the lessons of those challenges. In the context of a yoga class, this sort of challenge may come in the form of a limitation, a condition that suddenly interrupts or shifts our practice, or an inability to relax into savasana. In these moments, it’s so helpful to remember that the point of our yoga practice is not to reach some imagined level of perfection. The point of our yoga practice is to come to know ourselves (body, heart, mind, and spirit) more deeply, just as we are, and in doing so, to become actively engaged in supporting the unfolding of our own unique path.

I thank all of you for supporting my path in the many ways that you do, and it is always my intention to support your path to the best of my ability. I encourage you to explore your relationship to yourself, to the other people in your life, and to the world around you each time you come to your mat. The time you spend with yourself in mindful awareness of your present experience can offer a multitude of little lessons.

P.S. Special thanks to Leslie for reminding me it had been a long while since I’d taken the time to write a blog entry.  Namaste.

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Opening to Abundance

The classic symbol for Thanksgiving is the cornucopia, “the horn of plenty”, overflowing with an abundance of good things.  On Thanksgiving, we take the time to recognize and honor the blessings of our lives – the people who ignite the light of love in our hearts, the gifts of our sustenance (home, food, etc.), and the countless bearers of joy and inspiration, whatever they may be for each of us.  And if we’re really paying attention, we remember to give thanks for the simple fact of our existence, the breath of life that flows through us moment to moment, without our even having to think about it.

All this giving of thanks feels good.  It realigns priorities, redirects our focus to all that is important and beautiful in our lives.  In other words, it opens our hearts to abundance.  It’s easy, in the daily grind of things, to overlook our blessings.  The people and things in our life that bring us comfort, joy, and love can become like background noise – always there, yet barely noticed.  They get overshadowed by the daily struggles, concerns, and stresses that seem to be shouting for our attention.

One of the most amazing gifts we receive from our regular yoga practice is the gift of silence.  As we turn our attention inward, witnessing our breath and our bodies intently, we inevitably turn down the volume of our life’s preoccupations.  We create a sense of spaciousness in our bodies, our hearts, and our minds as we slow down and flow with the rhythm of our own breath.  Then, like the horn of plenty, the space we have created can be filled to overflowing with awareness of the richness of our lives.

On this day of Thanksgiving, I invite you to set aside a few moments to open yourself to the abundance of your life with a simple breathing practice.  It can be done this morning, before the activities of the day get underway, in the afternoon as your meal settles, or in the evening as you reflect back on your day.

Find a quiet space to sit in a comfortable position.  Take a couple of falling out breaths (in through your nose, out through your mouth), and begin to turn your awareness inward.  Take notice of your breath, just a gentle focus on the sensation of your breath entering and leaving your body, for a few minutes.  Then, as you breathe in, feel a sense of spaciousness expanding in your heart.  As you breathe out, feel your breath connecting you to every living being around you.  After a few minutes, breathe in with an awareness of being filled with the many blessings of your life.  You can focus on one or a few special blessings you would like to honor, or simply receive with your breath a general awareness of all your blessings.  As you breathe out, release your attachment to those blessings by sending the gift of your abundance out to your loved ones, to the world as a whole if you like.  Do this until you feel a sense of completion.

When you’ve completed this practice, notice how you feel.  What is the quality of your breath?  What has shifted in your body?  How does your heart feel?  What is your state of mind?  Opening to abundance is merely a matter of perspective.  And we get to choose, moment to moment, what perspective we want to energize within ourselves.  Consider what it might feel like to invite the energy of abundance and gratitude into your life on a daily basis by setting aside 10 minutes each day to do this practice.

In closing, I would like to extend my immense appreciation for the many beautiful spirits I am blessed to share my yoga practice with each week.  Thank you for your presence in my life.  May your Thanksgiving Day be filled with love, joy, and an abundance of all that brings you happiness and health!

P.S.  If you happen to experience indigestion after your Thanksgiving meal, Legs Up The Wall is a wonderful posture to support your digestive system.  A few minutes of lying on the floor with your legs extending up a wall can ease digestive problems.
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Om Vibrations Yoga & Music Experience

I’m so happy to announce the Om Vibrations Yoga & Music Experience, coming to Boerne’s Cave Without a Name on November 11-13th.  With a variety of yoga classes and informative/creative workshops above ground during the day, and live kirtan and other musical performances in the cave at night, this event will offer many opportunities for self exploration and growth.  This is a 3-day event with on-site camping available.  I’m looking forward to sharing my enthusiasm for yoga, music, and nature with a community of kind spirits.  Hope to see you there!  Event details at http://www.omvibrationsexperience.com/  Please share with anyone you think might be interested!

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The Yoga of Eating

yoga, nutrition, mindfulness, health, wellness, meditationOn the yoga mat, we bring mindful awareness to our breath, our body, our thoughts, our emotions, and our spirit.  It is this mindful awareness that helps us slow down and truly experience the present moment as it is unfolding.  As we hold this mindful awareness from breath to breath, movement to movement, we create a sense of spaciousness that honors the exquisite and intricate work of art which is our existence.  So many of my students have expressed their appreciation for these sacred moments, noting how different it feels from the way they tend to experience their many moments outside their yoga practice.  I can relate!

The main difference between the way we do yoga and the way we do most other aspects of our life is simply a matter of attention.  Are we slowing down and paying mindful attention to our state of being as we drive, perform tasks at work, tend to chores at home, etc?  Inviting a more mindful awareness of the present moment into all aspects of our life can bring the sense of calm, balance, and centeredness we encounter in yoga into our everyday life in a meaningful way.  As an old yoga teacher of mine used to say, when you do dishes, do dishes.

Lately I’ve been focusing on mindful eating.  Mealtime is a perfect way to bring what we’ve cultivated on the mat home with us.  When we take the time to pay attention to the act of eating, we transform our meals into a meditative practice, another opportunity to be in that delicious yogic space.  As an added benefit, eating mindfully aids in digestion and naturally curbs tendencies to overeat.

So what does it  mean to eat mindfully?  For me, it means beginning my meal with a moment of silent reflection to honor the sharing of energy between other lifeforms and me.  I like to acknowledge each lifeform that is contributing to my meal (the plants I will be consuming, the animals who have provided the dairy I am consuming, and even the energy that was invested in packaging and delivering the food.)  This sort of awareness encourages eating foods that don’t have a lot of unrecognizable ingredients, which are usually the ones that are not healthy for us.  I also like to set the intention that the energy I receive be used to support the unfolding of my highest potential and to assist me in supporting others in the unfolding of their own highest potential.

Eating mindfully involves savoring each bite, chewing our food until it becomes a mushy consistency.  This naturally slows down the process of eating and significantly improves digestion.  The digestive process begins in our mouth.  The more time we take to chew our food, the easier our body can digest it.  I have found mindful chewing enhances my awareness of all the textures and flavors of my food as well, making it far more enjoyable!  Additionally, when I give my body more time to receive the food I am consuming, my body is able to let me know when it’s time to put the fork down.

There is a certain calm that comes over me as I eat mindfully that feels like sacred space.  It feels like deep appreciation for the gift of my life.  It feels like true nourishment for my body, mind and spirit.  I invite you to explore the yoga of eating and see how it feels for you.  Try out this incredible recipe for Chickpea Curry over Jasmine Rice ~ full of tasty nutritious ingredients that support easy digestion and also have a natural cooling effect on the body.  For those of us in the Texas heat right now, all cooling efforts are an extra treat!

Ingredients

  • 2 Tablespoonds vegetable oil
  • 1 onion, minced
  • 2 cloves garlic, chopped
  • 2 teaspoons ginger root, chopped
  • 6 whole cloves
  • 1 teaspoon cinnamon
  • 1 teaspoon ground cumin
  • 1 teaspoon ground coriander
  • 1 teaspoon ground turmeric
  • 2 (15 ounce) cans garbanzo beans (chickpeas)
  • 1 cup fresh cilantro, chopped
  • salt and pepper to taste.
  • 3 cups cooked Jasmine rice

Directions

  1. Heat oil in a large frying pan over medium heat – sautee onions until tender.
  2. -Stir in garlic, ginger, cloves, cinnamon, cumin, coriander, salt, pepper and turmeric. Cook for 1 minute, stirring constantly.
  3. -Mix in the garbanzo beans and their liquid.
  4. -Continue to cook and stir until all ingredients are well blended.
  5. -Simmer for 5-10 minutes.  Remove from heat.
  6. -Stir in cilantro just before serving over a bed of Jasmine rice.
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Sitting at the Edge of Discomfort

yoga, spirituality, mindfulness, stress, relaxation, yoga therapyThe practice of yoga is well-known for it’s capacity to help us relax, de-stress, and restore our sense of vitality and well-being.  It is a well-earned reputation, as anyone who’s found themselves slipping into the blissful rest of savasana at the end of a yoga class can attest to.  There is, however, another less comfortable side to yoga.  That is, the part that surfaces somewhere between warming-up and cooling down ~ the meat of the class, if you will, when we find ourselves faced with the challenge of discomfort.

Which particular postures will present this challenge will vary from person to person.  For some of us, it’s the hip openers like pigeon or bound angle.  For others, it’s the balance postures, like standing bow or tree.  Still others find the back benders, such as cobra and bow, to be their least favorite.  Our bodies are different, so it only makes sense that we each should have a unique experience when we enter into each posture.  Regardless of which postures we find to be the most challenging, it is precisely those postures that can help us discover one of yoga’s most precious gifts.  That is, the gift of learning how to sit at the edge of discomfort.

Now, before we go any further, let me be clear about one thing.  At no time in our practice of yoga should we be causing ourselves harm.  Yoga is not a competitive endeavor.  The intention is not to push past our limits in order to perform a pose the same way our instructor or anyone else in the class is executing it.  Quite the opposite, yoga is about listening to our bodies very attentively to find the best expression of the posture for our own bodies.  This can sometimes mean doing a modification of the pose, using props for support, not folding all the way over.  The key is to find our own edge in each posture, that point when we’ve gone deep enough into it that we can really feel it, and then stopping there, not pushing past to a point where it hurts.

When we sit at our edges in postures that are challenging to us, we are sitting at the edge of discomfort.  These typically aren’t our favorite moments in our yoga practice.  They don’t tend to illicit a flush of yummy release in our bodies.  Instead, these postures ask us to be uncomfortable for a little while.  This runs against the grain of our usual instinct, which is to seek out the comfortable, pleasant experiences in life.  Therein lies the gift.

As we all know, the truth is life is often times NOT comfortable.  Whether it be sitting in heavy traffic when we’re running late, facing a pile of work we’d rather not do, or dealing with strife in our relationships, most of us face challenges on a daily basis that pull us away from our nice, calm, comfortable center.  Sitting at the edge of discomfort in our yoga practice, we cultivate the art of being with ourselves in such moments in a supportive way.

We learn to breathe as we sit with it, and that alone makes a world of difference.  We learn not to follow our first urges toward aversion and resistance ~ the fight or flight response, which is a stress reflex that can often lead to an overreaction we later regret, or an internalizing of our stress we store in our bodies as tension and dis-ease.  What we learn by experience as we sit with our discomfort in certain yoga postures is that the edge of discomfort eventually shifts.  Our bodies relax around the posture and give us permission to ease into it, or having held the posture for its duration, we release it and move on to the next.  Either way, we have survived it.  Those moments of discomfort haven’t harmed us.  In fact, they’ve stretched us, little by little.

We can survive the moments of discomfort in our daily lives as well.  If we want to, we can even let those moments of discomfort stretch us, make us more flexible, more adaptable, less prone to snap when something goes wrong. Try bringing this awareness of your relationship to discomfort into your yoga practice and your life in general.  When you’re on the mat, notice which postures present the biggest challenges to you.  Honor your edge in those postures, finding just the right intensity for your body, and then just sit with the sensations you are experiencing as you breathe.  Pay attention to the ways in which you tend to resist the posture, as well as the ways in which you find yourself receiving it.  There are no right or wrong ways.  The point is simply to be aware of what is happening for you.  Whether your edge in the posture shifts as you relax into it more or as you move out of the posture, reflect on the fact that it does eventually shift.

Then bring this awareness to those moments in your life when you notice you are experiencing discomfort.  First, determine if the experience is an edge you can sit with.  If you are being harmed, naturally you will want to take action to protect yourself.  But, if the discomfort is more along the lines of a situation not going the way you want it to, having to do a task you don’t find particularly enjoyable, being in an awkward social situation, or facing a professional or emotional challenge, etc, check in with yourself.  Might this be an opportunity for you to bring the wisdom you’ve cultivated on your yoga mat into your everyday life?  Can you sit with your edge a little, breathe, and be stretched?  In moments of stress, a little perspective can make all the difference in the world.

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Self-Compassion…The Greatest Gift You Can Give Yourself

yoga, spirituality, meditation, wellness, health, inspiration, therapy, mindfulnessSeveral years ago, I began the journey of understanding, embracing, and living the practice of compassion.  It seemed a natural progression to take in my quest to be a better, more enlightened person.  I did my best to set aside 10 minutes every day to open my heart with compassion to my family, my friends, my community, and especially any person with whom I might be experiencing difficulties.  I learned to see more clearly the struggles of other people and how those struggles might be influencing their behavior.  I touched the place within my heart that wants nothing but the best for all beings.  I looked for, and always found, the spark of light within others, the part of them that wants all the same things I want ~ love, happiness, peace, and fulfillment of our dreams.

As my practice of compassion evolved, so did my sense of patience, my willingness to forgive, and my hesitation to judge too quickly or too harshly.  I found myself less fearful, less distrustful, and all around more open to receiving and giving the blessings of human connection.  I was quite pleased with the fruits of my compassionate practice.  But, as so often is the case, just when I was feeling comfortable with my practice, the universe gave me a little nudge to go deeper.

My son’s therapist suggested a book on Self-Compassion, by Kristin Neff, Ph.D.   I was so certain my own practice of compassion was on-track, it never even occurred to me he was recommending the book for me.  I purchased it and gave it to my son.  The following week, he asked if I had found the book.  I told him I’d given it to my son, but he had yet to start reading it.  He looked at me with surprise, and said, Oh, was it for him?  I thought it was for you.

The first thought to cross my mind was, wow, is my lack of self-compassion written all over my face or what? I wondered what made him think I needed such a book.  Of course, now that I’ve read the book, I reflect on that initial reaction with an inward giggle.  It is precisely that sort of self-critical thinking that self-compassion helps to dissolve.

Even though all my learning on the practice of compassion had taught me the importance of first extending compassion to myself, and then to others, for 2 years I’d been devoting the bulk of my practice to developing compassion for others.  I had found it easier, more noble, to open my heart to compassion for other people.  I would even judge myself for not being compassionate enough.  Despite the diligence of my practice, I had completely missed the boat.

Now, as I’ve begun to offer that same kindness, understanding, and goodwill to myself, I am experiencing a profound shift in my quest to be a better, more enlightened person.  In fact, that shift is so fundamental it has altered the very intention of my quest.  I can see that the desire to be a better person inherently implies there is something wrong with who I am to begin with.  Like a hamster on the wheel of self-improvement, for many years I’ve been tirelessly running toward a goal that can never be attained ~ perfection.  What a different perspective I have now that I’ve stepped off that wheel.

For one, I can see and accept that as a human, it is in my DNA to make mistakes, to be less than perfect, to fall, to do and say things I’m not proud of.  It’s in my nature to be afraid sometimes, as well as to be sad, angry, jealous, and so on.  Struggle is as much a part of the human experience as is joy and celebration.  I am shadow as well as light.  It is when I embrace all aspects of my experience, my being, with loving compassion, rather than denial or resistance, that I am finally able to understand and embrace what it means to be alive.

This is the incredible gift of self-compassion ~ to see ourselves with clarity, warts and all; to understand more deeply our emotions, reactions, and struggles; to wrap ourselves in the arms of our own loving support and be comforted and inspired.  It is a gift no one else can give or take away.  And, it is the fertile ground from which a more compassionate world arises.  Every thing we experience is first and foremost a personal experience, filtered through the lens of our own inner-terrain.  Compassion for each other flows naturally from the springs of compassion we nurture for ourselves.

I highly recommend Kristin Neff’s book entitled Self-Compassion, as well as her website http://www.self-compassion.org/.  Her book can be purchased on her website or on Amazon, but the website offers good information as well as guided meditations.

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Yoga at the Edge

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This morning marks the beginning of a new year, full of potential and possibilities. In a sense, it feels like an edge ~ the finish of one year opening up into the expansiveness of a new year. As I sit here contemplating what this new year might have in store for me, I find myself resting into a rather rich awareness of this present moment. As though the present moment itself were what the new year has in store for me. A moment brimming with the fruits of all the growth I experienced over the past year, and at the same time, emptying itself into the spaciousness of the new year. The present moment feels like an ever-shifting edge between what has passed and what is to be. It is here at this edge that we experience the wonder of life unfolding in all its fresh, raw glory.

The practice of yoga helps to cultivate rich awareness of the present moment. As we focus on our breath and our physical expression of asanas, we are drawn naturally into a deeper connection with what is happening for us in each moment. We become more fully present. And yet even the most practiced yogis experience the tug and pull of the past and the future on the mat. Memories, worries, plans, lists, doubts…all manner of thoughts can cloud our awareness, removing us from the vitality of what is actually happening in the present moment.

To practice yoga at the edge is to honor the fullness of our experience in each moment of each posture. Physically, it is to listen keenly to our body as we enter into and hold each posture. How deep is deep enough for us at that moment? We want to go deep enough to really feel the sensation of the posture, and yet not so deep that we can’t sustain it or feel we might injure ourselves. This is respect for and acceptance of the present state of our body. Sitting at this physical edge, we dive into our physical experience. We feel the lengthening, opening, strengthening, and aligning of our body in all its little intricacies.

Emotionally, practicing yoga at the edge is to witness whatever emotions emerge within a posture or a stream of postures. For example, heart opening postures such as cobra or camel can illicit feelings ranging from panic to bliss, depending on what is present for us in that moment. Hip openers such as pigeon and legs-to-sides can stir up emotions ranging from vulnerability to an embracing of surrender. I find myself recognizing a sense of impatience at times in my own practice, arising not from any one posture, but instead from the mere act of taking time for myself in the practice of yoga, rather than tending to any number of other tasks I have on my plate. When this happens, it is my awareness of what is happening for me that brings about a natural release into my experience. Ahh, I say to myself, I am sitting at the edge of impatience. And as I sit with that awareness of my edge, it shifts.

In the same way, we can practice yoga at the edge with our mental awareness. Self-defeating thoughts can arise in postures we find particularly challenging. Competitive thoughts can call for our attention when we are confronted with physical limitations or when we compare our own expression of a posture with that of another person. To witness such thought patterns in the moment is to bring the light of awareness into our experience. Such awareness is the gift of a refined yoga practice, one in which we learn as much about ourselves as we do about the execution of a posture’s form.

Yoga means, literally, union. It is the union with our essential selves and the union with the all-ness of which we are all a part. When we practice yoga at the edge, our awareness folding ever deeper into our present moment experience, we become intimately connected to our essence. However it is we have come to understand our spirit ~ as unconditional love, our inner best friend, our inner guiding light ~ diving into the present moment brings us into contact with that part of ourselves.

To try to define the edge is a slippery endeavor. The edge is ever-shifting, and when we’re preoccupied, it is often illusive. It cannot be tied down anymore than our breath or a single, passing moment can. But while it seems to resist being defined, it can always be experienced in that wonder-full, curious, all-embracing realm of the here and now. This year, I am inviting this visceral experience of the edge not only more deeply into my yoga practice, but into all aspects of my life as well. If you would like to invite a more vital, present experience of yourself as well, try this simple meditation practice:

Sitting in a comfortable, quiet place, close your eyes and begin by taking a couple of falling-out breaths. (Breathe into your nose, and let your breath tumble out through your mouth.) As you exhale, settle into your inner awareness. Continuing to breathe in your own natural rhythm, begin observing the sensation of your breath as it moves in and out of your body. No need to change it or make it any certain way, but simply notice it as it is. To invite a deeper awareness of your breath, repeat the following affirmation several times ~ Breathing in, I know I am breathing. Breathing out, I know I am breathing. Continue breathing with an awareness of your breath, and as sensations occur in your body, emotions rise to the surface, or thoughts float through your mind, simply witness them. Listen to what your body is telling you, acknowledge what emotions and thoughts are present with you. With the appreciation with which you might admire a work of art or the curiosity with which you might explore a cave, observe yourself just as you are in each moment. And when nothing seems to be happening, return to witnessing your breath. The intention is to simply experience the wonder of you ~ be-ing.

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The Practice of Serenity

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Serenity comes when you trade expectations for acceptance.  Wise words from Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy founder Michael Lee. Words I’ve been integrating into my life in so many different ways lately. Not intentionally. In fact, the process of that integration was well underway before I’d even read them. Life is a funny sort of teacher. It doesn’t just hand you such profound answers. It offers you experiences that, if you’re paying attention, can lead to discovering your own personal versions of universal truths. And somehow, that makes them feel all the more real.

Expectations can take on many different forms. There are the individual sort, the standards of performance we hold ourselves to. What do we expect to accomplish in any given day? What do we expect to accomplish in our lifetime? What pressures do we place on ourselves in terms of appearance, time management, commitments, and such? At one level, the expectations we set for ourselves may help keep us focused, moving forward toward the fulfillment of our goals and life purpose. But, at another level, they may be keeping us from feeling content with who we are in the present moment.

Interpersonal expectations are the guidelines we establish for our relationships. What do we expect the people in our lives to do, say, and think in order for the relationship to feel acceptable? On the one hand, there are clearly words and actions that can be hurtful in relationships. To expect people in our lives to refrain from such things is natural. On the other hand, if we uphold unreasonable expectations for our relationships, we set ourselves up for perpetual disappointment and/or failed relationships.

Cultural expectations involve our ideals, our view of how the world should be politically, socially, economically, and otherwise. When we formulate this perfect picture of the world, we give ourselves something to work toward. Like Martin Luther King’s dream, we create a vision for a better world and try our best to encourage that version of the world through our actions and words. Inevitably, though, we find ourselves confronted with the rather large divide that can exist between what is our ideal and what is actually real.

My practice of yoga has grown into a practice of mindful awareness of what is over the years. Much more than a flow of physical postures, it is a practice of being present, as I observe my breath and my body’s state of being in that moment. I have found the mindful awareness I have cultivated in my yoga and meditation practice seeping into every other aspect of my life as well. In my work as a Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapist, this mindful awareness has evolved into deeper and deeper levels of knowing myself and hearing my inner voice of wisdom. And in this process of self-awareness, I have come to see how so much of my discontentment in life has been connected to the unrealistic expectations I have been holding onto.

Recent months have been filled with opportunities for me to re-evaluate what role expectations have played in my life. Looking back, it seems like I unwittingly enrolled in Expectations 101. Thankfully, I was engaged enough in the process of self-discovery to ask myself some very meaningful questions. What level of accomplishment makes me lovable? How reliable and loyal does a friend have to be to make the relationship worth fighting for? What world problems must be solved in order for me to acknowledge life’s inherent beauty? When I looked at each of these questions with the same sort of surrender to what is that I bring to my yoga mat, I found that I was already lovable, my friends were no more and no less perfect than me, and the world at large is an exquisite, mysterious expression of divine imagination I may never fully understand. And that’s okay.

Expectations can create a tangled mess of discontentment, frustration, and disillusionment. Acceptance unravels that mess to reveal some very simple truths. One, we cannot control everything that happens in life, or even most of it. We can, however, control our reaction to what happens. It is our reaction to what happens that determines our own level of serenity, and quite often, what happens next. Two, the more space and grace we offer for imperfections in ourselves and in others, the more space and grace others will reflect back to us. And space and grace, to me, feels like serenity.

I encourage you to start paying attention to how your own expectations are impacting your capacity for serenity. Set aside some time for quiet reflection, maybe in a journal or just sitting with your thoughts over a warm cup of tea. List a few of the expectations you have for yourself, for your friends, and for the world in general. How do you react when those expectations are not met? What might it feel like to set aside those expectations and simply embrace yourself, your friends, and the world just as you and they are? Then, test it out. The next time you have the opportunity to let go of an expectation in favor of accepting what is, do it. See how it serves you. You may find, as I have, that surrendering your expectations opens up a realm of surprisingly refreshing experience your expectations could never have envisioned!

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